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As someone who is single, childfree, workfree and homefree, your love for reading was the best part of this essay for me! Yes I can only compare it to what others seem to feel about their kids... I also want to talk about the books (kids) aaaaall the time and show you pictures of the covers and compare them to other books :D

Big fan of best books of the month format

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Lol same. I almost wrote about the top recommendation “this was like picking children.” Thank you ♥️

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I love your honest critiques of the books you read or chose not to read. I would love to send you mine that was published in December. This Side of Alcohol. Your book was such an inspiration to write my own. I am so glad you are back.

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Would love it. You can reply to the email and I’ll share a mailing address.

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Love love love this new feature. And the total uninhibited embrace of reading all the books. The Dawn of Everything and The Urge sound like really worthwhile reads. As well The Weight of Air - and completely heartbreaking and tragic that David Poses left this earth. I completely understand feeling very porous about addiction memories. Whenever I'm really into a book, I have this whole ambient feel of it kind of living with me in the background of my life as I'm going through my day. I'm 1/4 into Barbara Demick's very very good book "Eat the Buddha" about a Tibetan town, and the history of China's destruction of the Tibetan culture and imprisoning and killing of Tibetans. I'm going to come back to it. Very hard to read at the moment, knowing what's going on currently in Ukraine. The best book I've read in quite some time is "Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals" by Oliver Burkeman. Completely changed my thinking around productivity, time management, and trying to "optimize" my time. It's actually an incredible spiritually relevant book. I loved it. Love Pema Chodron. Speaking of good dharma books : Highly recommend anything by Joan Tolifson. "Bare Bones Meditation: Waking Up From the Story of My Life" and "Awake in the Heartland: The Ecstasy of What is" are both fantastic and available on Kindle. Joan went through a very intense period of alcohol addiction in her twenties and she writes about it in a way that I've never seen addiction written about before. The mark of a really good and consequential book for me is holding on to it, not ever wanting to lend it out, and going back to it for a second or third read to keep germinating and metabolizing all the good ideas. As a fellow bibliophile I love that you're doing this feature, Holly.

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You have the best recommendations. I also loved Four Thousand Weeks (will be in my 2021 guide, winky face). He also has a really good newsletter. Will look for Joan Tolifson's work; that is how I feel about Pema's. I keep giving away my copies of WTFA and it's so hard every time because I'm like "all the underlines!" I am so weird about my books, like borrow all my clothes and walk your dirty feet on my white carpet but do not touch my books. Thanks for this Kailey!

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Mar 15, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

I love your writing because it’s raw and it really brings out your sense of humor.

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Awww HI JOE! xx

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Mar 17, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Hi. It’s been a while. I hope you are doing well.

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Book recommendations (from an author I like, such as yourself) are priceless to me. Ratings are an added bonus. I love to read and don't want to take extra time researching books. thanks for this.

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ugh I know they are my favorite thing (book reviews).

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Mar 8, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Nothing profound to add, but the permission to not finish books I start is liberating. So much shame to unlearn. Thank you.

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Amen. xx

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Hi Holly,

I used to love to read, too. I was an avid reader. Since I got sober 3 years ago, I have extreme difficulty reading because I have trouble comprehending it. Unfortunately I think it's because I fucking damaged my brain with the alcohol. Are most of these on Audible and would they even translate well on that format?

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Hey Tiffany, yes almost all of these are on audible (I think every one of them actually). You can access by clicking the primary link (amazon) and then selecting the audio book version. I also think you can get audio versions through the public library links (you have to search for the title and it will give you ebook or audio version).

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

As an avid reader I love this. I understand your hesitation with a rating system, I struggle with this and I'm just rating on goodreads. I look forward to reading Oh William! Best book I read this month was the essay collection These Precious Days by Ann Patchett, I didn't know she was sober before reading, definitely recommend (it's not about sobriety at all, it just comes up once or twice)!

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I didn't know AP was sober either! Hmmm. On the rating system, it's just like, I don't like it. It just means at some point I'm going to hurt someone's feelings. But how else do you help people narrow down choices? Idk. Thinking about it.

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This list couldn't have come at a better time for me. Currently living in a small town in Nova Scotia that just so happens to not have a bookstore!!! Think about a town of people with no access to books aka any other view of the world... 😩

Anyway, I've escaped for 2 days and my #1 priority is to shop books 😃

Right after my psych assessment (no that's not a joke) LONG story for another time lol

Thanks a lot ❤️

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Here for long stories. Books, or rather information, it's such a privilege. HAVE FUN SHOPPING BOOKS.

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

This is great. And a double thank you for the books not finished section. You mean I am not a big failure for trying something and it just not working out and that I may try again later- who knows?! Love you.

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A wild proposition. xx

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Great format Holly! I love the descriptions and also the fact that you are able to not finish books! I feel weird guilt about doing that, but maybe I will give it another shot!

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I love that that part was a hit. Try it it's fun and liberating! xx

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

Yours (just answering the last question) :)

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(blushes) <3

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

I really enjoy this format. And I respect the book recommendations that you provide as I have read off your previous list prior. As someone who does not have time to do enough proper research to select books, I appreciate the lists. I just broke my foot so I will order a few to keep me occupied these next few weeks. Thanks Holly.

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I really recommend the urge and if you’ve got lots of down time and an attention span (ha) dawn of everything. I’m so sorry about your foot Jennifer. That’s got to hurt and suck. xx

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Mar 7, 2022Liked by Holly Whitaker

That’s the first one I ordered (The Urge). Depending on how this orthopedic appointment goes tomorrow I might get dawn of everything too. Lol. Thanks and all will be well in a few weeks time. A good excuse to lay in bed and read. Seriously my fav part of the week. Appreciate you! Very much.

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lol. hope it went well (the appointment) but added benefit if not is time for 600 page books? xx

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Thank you for your book recommendations!! I've read many books that you've taken the time to review, and suggest (or not) throughoutthe years. I am so grateful for this newsletter and grateful for you.

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Thank you Christine <3

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