Recovering Roundup

Week of February 20, 2022

First, an ask.

Hey you all! One thing I want to ask. I get anywhere from a dozen to sometimes a hundred emails each time I send a newsletter. I love them; I love hearing your stories mostly because I’ve always connected with people at the intersection of our biggest secrets vs. small talk, and that’s what it’s always felt like: connection, privilege.

I have been noticing more and more that a lot of what you all send me are things that I think the whole community could benefit from; for instance, in response to Sunday’s newsletter thirty different people wrote to tell me they’d had the same exact experience this past year. And when those notes go just to me, it means one, you don’t get to find each other, and two, you don’t get the support of a community.

I stopped replying to almost all emails years ago for a few reasons; (1) I felt the weight of expectation all the time to perform and support a lot of people; it was way too much; (2) I felt like I was always letting people down, espec…